04347cam a22003974a 450000100090000000300060000900500170001500800410003201000150007302000270008802000300011502000220014502000250016702000250019202000220021703500370023904001020027604200080037808200170038610000290040324501070043224600270053926000460056630000280061250000460064050400410068650516610072750511460238852000760353453000240361065000620363465000660369665000290376265000330379177601250382456111821OCoLC20181108175855.0040730s2004    tnu      b    000 0 eng    a2004017976  a0785260897 (hardcover)  a9780785260899 (hardcover)  a078527636X (pbk.)  a9780785276364 (pbk.)  a9780785288749 (pbk.)  a0785288740 (pbk.)  a(OCoLC)56111821z(OCoLC)69917504  aDLCbengcDLCdIG#dJPKdBAKERdSINAPdBTCTAdYDXCPdVETdNORdOCLCGdSMPdTXAdOCLCQdTXBXLdBSC  apcc  a158.2bM465w1 aMaxwell, John C.,d1947-10aWinning with people :bdiscover the people principles that work for you every time /cJohn C. Maxwell.13aPastor's study sermons  aNashville, Tenn. :bNelson Books,cc2004.  axviii, 275 p. ;c24 cm.  aIncludes booklet: Pastor's Study sermons.  aIncludes bibliographical references.00tAcknowledgments --tIntroduction --g[pt. 1].tThe readiness question : are we prepared for relationships? --tThe lens principle : who we are determines how we see others --tThe mirror principle : the first person we must examine is ourselves --tThe pain principle : hurting people hurt people and are easily hurt by them --tThe hammer principle : never use a hammer to swat a fly off someone's head --tThe elevator principle : we can lift people up or take people down in our relationships --g[pt. 2].tThe connection question : are we willing to focus on others? --tThe big picture principle : the entire population of the world -- with one minor exception -- is composed of others --tThe exchange principle : instead of putting others in their place, we must put ourselves in their place --tThe learning principle : each person we meet has the potential to teach us something --tThe charisma principle : people are interested in the person who is interested in them --tThe number 10 principle : believing the best in people usually brings the best out of people --tThe confrontation principle : caring for people should precede confronting people --g[pt. 3].tThe trust question-can we build mutual trust? --tThe bedrock principle : trust is the foundation of any relationship --tThe situation principle : never let the situation mean more than the relationship --tThe Bob principle : when Bob has a problem with everyone, Bob is usually the problem --tThe approachability principle : being at ease with ourselves helps others be at ease with us --tThe foxhole principle : when preparing for battle, dig a hole big enough for a friend.00g[pt. 4].tThe investment question -- are we willing to invest in others? --tThe gardening principle : all relationships need cultivation --tThe 101 percent principle : find the 1 percent we agree on and give it 100 percent of our effort --tThe patience principle : the journey with others is slower than the journey alone --tThe celebration principle : the true test of relationships is not only how loyal we are when friends fail, but how thrilled we are when they succeed --tThe high road principle : we go to a higher level when we treat others better than they treat us --g[pt. 5].tThe synergy question -- can we create a win-win relationship? --tThe boomerang principle : when we help others, we help ourselves --tThe friendship principle : all things being equal, people will work with people they like; all things not being equal, they still will --tThe partnership principle : working together increases the odds of winning together --tThe satisfaction principle : in great relationships, the joy of being together is enough --tFinal review of the people principles for Winning with People --tNotes --tAbout the author.  aTools to improve your existing relationships as well as begin new ones.  aAlso issued online. 0aInterpersonal relationsxReligious aspectsxChristianity. 0aInterpersonal communicationxReligious aspectsxChristianity. 0aInterpersonal relations. 0aInterpersonal communication.08iOnline version:aMaxwell, John C., 1947-tWinning with people.dNashville, Tenn. : Nelson Books, c2004w(OCoLC)607611382